if I am to engage in a romantic/intimate relationship with a man it will be entirely on my own terms. I will not modify my behavior in any way and he must not make me feel like I should.

• he must be a feminist (NOT liberal feminism, no porn, no fetishes of degradation) 
• he must be able to communicate effectively and maturely 
• I am very straight forward and honest with my opinions and emotions; he must not take this as a personal attack 
• sex must be entirely reciprocal-he must never pressure me in any way 
• he must have his own life, be able to think and plan as I do, solve his own problems and have sense of security in himself, I will not be a caretaker/therapist. However, this is is not "free pass" to be flaky, emotionally stunted, and non-monogamous, as I will not tolerate any of these